Why We’re Reluctant to ‘Follow Our Dreams’
- Published on: 06 February, 2017
- Last update: 24 August, 2017
Today I wanted to share some wise words (and a poem) that I stumbled upon while in Costa Rica. I hope you enjoy as much as I did! xo
“We are often bombarded with ideas and suggestions of what we ought or should do with our lives, whether it be to pursue a career, start a business, invent, venture to distant lands or quit the 9-5 job we loathe… in order to ‘follow our dreams’.
We all have those moments when we question the path we’re on, and in fact I’m sure I’m not the only one who has thought of just getting away from it all: the noise, the pressure, the baggage that comes with living in this microwave generation. Life can be overwhelming sometimes, especially with the added pressure of being ‘normal.’
The worst part of it is that we’ve become so busy with doing things – living on autopilot – that we forget life is more than chasing after a paycheck, having the best résumé or the most versatile portfolio. As noble as it it may be, the path to following one’s dreams is often untrodden, not for lack of zeal, but the dread of the unknown… the fear of failure. We as human beings are creatures of habit and as much as we muse about doing something out of the ordinary, our daily routines and commitments make it nearly impossible to escape from the lives we’ve persuaded ourselves to live.
Secondly, we are reluctant to follow our dreams because of the scaremongering of well meaning individuals. These individuals (in most cases) have given up or failed in the pursuit of their own dreams and wish you not to go through the toil, uncertainty and pain they’ve experienced. They appoint themselves gate-keepers of your destiny, quickly quenching any suggestions that would dare divert from the paradigm. Although it may appear to be a selfless act, it is in fact the epitome of short-sightedness disguised as wise counsel. The risk of failure is ever present for those who embark on the perilous journey of pursing their dream, but they who risk nothing are to be pitied most. For the person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. If you want to live with no regrets you must be willing to take risks. Many a times it’s not where you get to, or even whether you accomplish your dreams, but who you become in the process that matters the most.” – Jedidiah A-Ackah
A Poem on Risk
“To laugh is to risk appearing a fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.”
William Arthur Ward.
Both of these beautiful pieces of writing left me so inspired this morning, and I knew I had to share. Take that risk, put yourself out into the world and believe that good will come from it (because it always will!) Lots of love everyone.