Morning Motivation: Fear is an Illusion, Choose Love
- Published on: 07 April, 2015
- Last update: 10 August, 2017
The following is a compilation of my edits and sequencing of the major points in Marianne Williamson’s A Return To Love. Her book truly helped me to change my attitude towards myself and others — and most importantly — to learn to forgive.
Love is what we were born with. The opposite of love is not violence or hatred, but fear. All our lives we’ve been taught to focus on fear — thoughts of competition, struggle, finite resources, limitation, scarcity, and loss. We’re afraid, period. We think we should be better by now. We’re always seeking a way out through growth or escape. We sabotage things: our relationships, our careers. We drink. We control. We obsess. We overeat. We hide. We attack.
1. Love is real. It’s an eternal creation and nothing can destroy it.
2. Anything that isn’t love is an illusion.
3. Remember this, and you’ll be at peace.
When we think with love, we are literally co-creating with God/the universe. And when we’re not thinking with love – since only love is real – we’re actually not thinking at all. We’re hallucinating. And that’s what this world is: a mass hallucination, where fear seems more real than love. Fear is an illusion, and the energy of fear can be transformed to love in a matter of seconds with just the power of your mind.
Thought is cause and experience is effect. If you don’t like the effects in your life, you have to change the nature of thinking. Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of Heaven. Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of Hell. The perfect you isn’t something you need to create. The perfect you is accessed through the love within you. Your job is to remove the fearful thinking and let YOU shine.
Very few of us were taught that we’re essentially good. Very few of us were given sense of unconditional approval – a feeling that we’re precious because of what we ARE, not what we do. We were raised by people who were raised the same way. This loss of self-acceptance brings out the ego. The ego is the great fault-finder. It seeks out the faults in us and in others. “I love you if you do this, but not if you do that.” Because we’ve been taught we’re not worthy of unconditional love, we give the same limitations to others. We judge people for what they do, not why they do it. We persecute their actions without looking at the cry for love underneath them. We look for the flaws in others that we know all too well in ourselves, to bring our egos comfort. You can only recognize in others what you see inside of you. By persecuting them, we don’t have to face the mirror. But closing our hearts this way destroys our peace. It’s alien to our real nature. It warps us.
(Note: The sentiment of recognizing flaws in others that we see in ourselves is more geared towards our instinct to judge others. Of course, there are times when someone is so consumed with hurt and fear that they become abusive. In these situations, it’s best for our mental health to move on and forgive the person in order to free ourselves. Those who abuse are not “bad people” — they have been abused all their lives as well. Abuse is a lifestyle and violence is a language. It is not your job to ‘fix them,’ as they can only find self-love on their own. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first, move on, and love them from a distance. They are acting from a place of fear, which brings me to the section below…)
When someone behaves unlovingly – when they yell at us, lie about us, or steal from us – they have lost touch with who they truly are. When someone is angry, they are afraid. When someone is manipulative, they are afraid. When someone is cruel, they are afraid.
Remember, love is the only thing that exists. Fear is just an illusion that we cling to when we feel lost and undeserving. And since love is all that exists, acting from a place of fear is merely a CRY for love. Regardless of a person’s negativity and anger, their behavior was derived from fear and therefore doesn’t actually exist. So forgiveness becomes discernment between what is real and what is not real. There is no negativity that forgiveness can’t transform into love. It will free you.
If you focus on all of the love within you and in the world around you, you get excited to find that in others. If you are looking for something good or beneficial in a person or a situation, you’ll always find it. The best feeling in the world is noticing and stating positive things about other people. Even the person that bugs you the most has wonderful qualities. Building that person up will make both of you want to strive to meet your potential and be even better.